Once upon a time you were in love. They owned you. Everything they did captivated your soul. But. They just weren’t that into you. You were best friends and you always had been. And that’s where you always will be.
You’ve been in the Friend Zone before. It’s a horrible death for any hope of a romantic relationship.
Just like your comfort zone is a horrible death for your dreams.
And dreams? Are meant to push us to do things we didn’t think we could do. Do you dream of being average? No. You don’t. You dream of being inspirational. Of driving fancy cars, owning your own oceanfront condo in Maui, and wearing Armani suits.
Those dreams don’t come true without work. Without work that kicks you in the teeth. That makes you cringe at the thought of it.
Dreams don’t come true without pain.
The Pain of Dreams
Pain brings dreams to life. The pain of living and breathing outside of your comfort zone, not the kind of pain that hurts you. But the kind of pain that brings growth, evolution, and transformation.
The gorgeous butterfly outside your office window this summer didn’t become a butterfly without bloodshed. That caterpillar created its own deathbed. Only to arise from the bloody mess of death as one of the most beautiful insects in the world.
Just like you. Just like you have to power to do for yourself.
You want to succeed? You have to be willing to bleed. You have to be willing to walk the talk. To make things happen. No matter how scary they are.
Evolution or Obsolescence?
Dave and Rich were best friends in high school. Dave was always looking for the toughest skate pipes. Rich was always watching.
He admired Dave’s abilities, but he never tested his own to see if he could keep up. So he sat. And watched.
Pipe after pipe, the air Dave grabbed was unbelievable. His stunts made Rich and their friends look at him like he was superhuman. He didn’t get that way because he didn’t try. Or because he was scared.
Dave was leery, in the beginning, about throwing his body in the air with only hope that he would land on his feet on the board and not on his neck on the pipe. But that fear didn’t stop him. Even when he saw his friends crash and burn, only to be carted away in the back of ambulances, Dave pushed forward. Prepared to carry out his dream, regardless of what he had to do to make it. He tried new tricks. He pushed himself beyond what he thought his body would let him do.
Because to win? Was the ONLY choice he had…
Thousands of hours and dozens of failed attempts later, Dave skated in the competition of his dreams and took the championship. Year after year.
Rich grew up to be the best mail-sorter in the building. Not Dave. Dave grew up to own and run a successful skateboard company. And now he travels the world talking to kids about staying clean and keeping the board alive.
Rich didn’t test himself. He didn’t push himself to be more than he was. So he stayed right where he was. He didn’t grow. He didn’t evolve. He. Became. Obsolete.
Are you Rich or are you Dave?